tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post5148830400151985896..comments2024-01-12T00:24:35.544+01:00Comments on St Bloggie de Riviere: Toxic Wife DetectionSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-21918664254982486652007-03-04T21:54:00.000+01:002007-03-04T21:54:00.000+01:00It is a pleasure to read and write in Anonymous.Ge...It is a pleasure to read and write in Anonymous.<BR/><BR/>Gender would be for your charity to avoid.<BR/>Apple picking is coming into season.<BR/><BR/>None the less I am a very lucky person, don't you be sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-20468502252995156002007-03-04T21:33:00.000+01:002007-03-04T21:33:00.000+01:00No, she was not a toxic wife to may old dad, far f...No, she was not a toxic wife to may old dad, far from it, so forget the bit about irredeemable features. I was simply trying to convey the intensity of my own teenage feelings at the time.<BR/><BR/>Have you found Mr.Right yet, Ms "Second Anonymous"?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-92021068745317912142007-03-04T21:17:00.000+01:002007-03-04T21:17:00.000+01:00Snap not intended. Uncharitable not intended.Her s...Snap not intended. Uncharitable not intended.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Her story needs to be added to yours. Which probably cannot be. <BR/>(to be charitable to your step-mother )<BR/><BR/>But you cannot speak of her as a toxic wife, as you are reiterating from childhood.<BR/>But I do appreciate your dialogue with attempt to write of experiences.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-41023031342533488312007-03-04T21:15:00.000+01:002007-03-04T21:15:00.000+01:00All I can say is I've had stepmotherhood thrust up...All I can say is I've had stepmotherhood thrust upon me, which I embraced, offering my spare room to this female ado, a warm welcome and cosy family home.<BR/><BR/>I now feel, 7 months later like I have a carbuncle in the house; a toxic cuckoo in the nest who is ruining everything I have worked very hard to create since my divorce. Toxicity can take many forms in fact. I'm lucky. I can rid my life, if it comes to it, of the toxic ado!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-53750725490701979522007-03-04T20:47:00.000+01:002007-03-04T20:47:00.000+01:00I didn't build her into a toxic. She arrived with ...I didn't build her into a toxic. She arrived with a huge chip on her shoulder, having been jilted at the altar, married on the rebound, as she put it, and having walked out on her own children not just once but twice, who had then to be put into a home.<BR/><BR/>That's a snap judgement above, and hardly a charitable one, given that it's based on no knowledge of the facts. I simply wanted to introduce a related aspect of toxic wife, seen from a child's perspective. And yes, it still rankles, but that does not stop one from being a wiser, if sadder adult.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-73994781422844600222007-03-04T20:43:00.000+01:002007-03-04T20:43:00.000+01:00I have a wicked stepmother too! But not as awful ...I have a wicked stepmother too! But not as awful as that! I don't have to post anonymously as she knows I call her that, I even introduce her to friends as such and she laughs!Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277397635514758674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-4354748994042377782007-03-04T19:59:00.000+01:002007-03-04T19:59:00.000+01:00Bundling a stepmother into "a toxic" may be someon...Bundling a stepmother into "a toxic" may be someone's idea of description.<BR/>There is the stepmother's side of the story to be written.<BR/>It seems that the author still has the childs POV and has not moved on.<BR/>The child beaten by the spoon, learns to use the spoon, unless the child grows into his/hers own human nature.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-88901389408599728252007-03-04T18:36:00.000+01:002007-03-04T18:36:00.000+01:00As most men, I am not that clever at picking the t...As most men, I am not that clever at picking the toxic female members of our species. Regrettfully we're even fascinated by them, until it's too late. But I have developed a rule of thumb which permits me to avoid most pitfalls.<BR/><BR/>If it's carrying a British passport it's probably toxic.I don't know why that is, but it works well for me.richard of orleanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08821981371460225723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-73731531900514025812007-03-04T18:10:00.000+01:002007-03-04T18:10:00.000+01:00One thing that surprises me is the absence in the ...One thing that surprises me is the absence in the media (at least, the bit of it that I encounter) of the devastating effect that the arrival of a step-parent can have on a family. It's all very well saying there has to be a bit of give-and-take on both sides, but sometimes there's just bad chemistry between people, not helped by a generational difference.<BR/><BR/>I personally had a frightful experience with a stepmother who arrived when I was in my teens. To give just one example: she returned from a holiday with my Dad, found the electric iron wasn't working, said it was my fault, and said I would have to pay for a new one (from Saturday earnings - I was still at school). I refused, said I hadn't dropped it etc, so it was just old age. Her response ? She refused to talk to me for THREE WHOLE MONTHS, would you believe it ? Can you imagine what it was like, living in the samle house as someone who pretends you are not there - a NON-PERSON !<BR/><BR/>Perhaps you will understand why I have posted this anonymously, Sarah !<BR/><BR/>Toxic wives are bad enough. Toxic stepmothers are infinitely worse. You don't get to choose your stepmother, so there may be NO REDEEMING FEATURES!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-80054792265594504182007-03-04T08:14:00.000+01:002007-03-04T08:14:00.000+01:00"Lacombe Lucien" : I have left a message for you o..."Lacombe Lucien" : I have left a message for you on my own blog. You know your way there.sciencebodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051016731274875332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-17993853079137719122007-03-03T21:49:00.000+01:002007-03-03T21:49:00.000+01:00Who appointed colinb to the blog police? Much to f...Who appointed colinb to the blog police? Much to fond of laying down the law and hearing himself talk.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-37148864896107987952007-03-03T17:43:00.000+01:002007-03-03T17:43:00.000+01:00So where does that leave you, Anonymous, now that ...So where does that leave you, Anonymous, now that you are unable to post anonymously to either Salut or Cuckoos ?<BR/><BR/>You now have no choice but to register with Blogger under a "proper" pseudonym. Not before time, some might say.<BR/><BR/>I had, in fact, given up on personal blogs, but have taken a renewed interest since an Anonymous (probably yourself) mentioned me by name (CB/hippo), saying that I had lied about my location. It's precisely because of this kind of mischief-making, both from anonymice and others, that I am back here, imposing on Sarah's hospitality.<BR/><BR/>But for as long as you are still around, Anonymouse/Anonymice, badmouthing people with your 'poison pen letters' then I won't be far away. And I don't suppose Sarah will mind if you scuttle off to find somewhere else to play.<BR/><BR/>PS Glad to see that Louise has just nipped in ahead with the same sentiments.sciencebodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051016731274875332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-50457449147605614492007-03-03T17:32:00.000+01:002007-03-03T17:32:00.000+01:00I should think that Sarah will be mightily pleased...I should think that Sarah will be mightily pleased about that, anon.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277397635514758674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-80344788778936946242007-03-03T17:07:00.000+01:002007-03-03T17:07:00.000+01:00I will no longer visit this blog with ColinB prese...I will no longer visit this blog with ColinB present.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-11120729231325769232007-03-03T17:00:00.000+01:002007-03-03T17:00:00.000+01:00Then you'd be well advised not to abuse it, Anonym...Then you'd be well advised not to abuse it, Anonymous, or you will quickly wear out that welcome.sciencebodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051016731274875332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-6134930968640180202007-03-03T16:42:00.000+01:002007-03-03T16:42:00.000+01:00The front door here accepts Anonymous comments.By ...The front door here accepts Anonymous comments.<BR/>By way of seeing that option I feel comfortable in Sarah's welcome.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-22863303057162801292007-03-03T14:38:00.000+01:002007-03-03T14:38:00.000+01:00Sad: sad to realise that loving and tenderness in ...Sad: sad to realise that loving and tenderness in french minds is "confondre bon....& con"......!!<BR/><BR/>Nicknames though are fun. I suppose I would not want to name my nearly beloveds by their real names, but by nicknames, yes. They recognise themselves, and know that there is a nice little comment for them or about them!<BR/><BR/>As for all the bunk about elder and eldest....phewwwwwww. We are living in a modern era so without being vulgar or grossier why not simplify to fit in with our epoque. Much more upset about lack of manners, than lack to exact vocabulary.<BR/><BR/>It think that language evoluates - and although I would not like ut to get to the Rap/R&B stage, why not? <BR/><BR/>I sound like Thackery when I talk, and my Daddy would not allow us to use contractions...even in speech....bit overdoing it, n'est pas?<BR/><BR/>It's such a joy to read all the comments on your blog - if this goes on much longer I'll end up by speaking and spelling properly!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-47774014539875662222007-03-03T14:00:00.000+01:002007-03-03T14:00:00.000+01:00Indeed, Louise!NG: I think it boils down to 'famil...Indeed, Louise!<BR/><BR/>NG: I think it boils down to 'familiarity breeds contempt'. Being a good person is not enough if the partner is not likewise.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-14722383046076816172007-03-03T11:03:00.000+01:002007-03-03T11:03:00.000+01:00I refer to my children by their names on my blog, ...I refer to my children by their names on my blog, and at times I do refer to my son as 'The Child' or sometimes as 'The Changeling' - for indeed at the age of 15, that is what he is. For me it is a term of endearment - there are times I call him 'The Child' to his face, and he in turn calls me 'The Mother'.<BR/><BR/>He has many other nicknames, too - where is the problem?Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277397635514758674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-16428078998799868332007-03-03T09:58:00.000+01:002007-03-03T09:58:00.000+01:00scary!scary!Elspethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03385613621281021295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-71536591313070884352007-03-03T08:17:00.000+01:002007-03-03T08:17:00.000+01:00Most people don't want to refer to their child or ...Most people don't want to refer to their child or husband by name and find an identifying noun that they like. There's one woman who refers to her husband as 'The Prat' on the blog 'My husband is a prat'...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-19907661250749228552007-03-03T08:13:00.000+01:002007-03-03T08:13:00.000+01:00How strange that someone who writes in under "Anon...How strange that someone who writes in under "Anonymous" should say: "It seems alien; an object, not a person". <BR/><BR/>If, as I suspect, it's the same anonymous whose been leaving obscure and, of late, menacing comments on Salut and Cuckoos, then their words are an apt description of themselves.<BR/><BR/>"Anonymous" may be OK in some circumstances for a one-off comment, but not as a permanent username.<BR/><BR/>So what's your problem, Anonymous ? Why don't you choose yourself a proper pseudonym, and perhaps reveal a little more about yourself (sex, country etc etc)<BR/>Are you indeed the same anonymous who's been making themselves unwelcome elsewhere ? If so, "toxic blogger" would seem a fair description.sciencebodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051016731274875332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-63709468915251918822007-03-02T21:52:00.000+01:002007-03-02T21:52:00.000+01:00I have a solution for some toxic wives I know....l...I have a solution for some toxic wives I know....locked gates, drawn volets, and hidden cars...........<BR/><BR/>How is it that toxic wives never get thrown off for new nice and kind models - but that nice kind models get thrown away to be replaced by totally toxic unlivable badly behaved spendthrift bitchy ones?<BR/><BR/>As Carrie Bradshaw would say, should we conclude that long life security and home forever is for only the toxic ones. The nice ladies get replaced when out of fashion, older or just worn out!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-21912034144660976312007-03-02T14:11:00.000+01:002007-03-02T14:11:00.000+01:00I've noticed the use of "the child".It seems alien...I've noticed the use of "the child".<BR/>It seems alien; an object, not a person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-36823288525994470812007-03-02T13:58:00.000+01:002007-03-02T13:58:00.000+01:00I noticed too that one person complained about par...I noticed too that one person complained about parents with 2 kids using 'eldest' and 'youngest' instead of 'elder' and 'younger'.<BR/><BR/>A strange thing to complain about especially if one wants to keep things short. I couldn't say 'my elder went to footie', I'd have to say 'my elder child went to footie' which is a bit cumbersome and would lead to an overuse of the word 'child'.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.com