tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post7521678566075464604..comments2024-01-12T00:24:35.544+01:00Comments on St Bloggie de Riviere: Sunday Bloody SundaySarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-88081582011406625452007-03-06T21:56:00.000+01:002007-03-06T21:56:00.000+01:00Richard, your sympathy is misplaced. Sorry.Richard, your sympathy is misplaced. Sorry.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-68402445933073276842007-03-06T20:37:00.000+01:002007-03-06T20:37:00.000+01:00You all sound like a bunch of misogynists. I was s...You all sound like a bunch of misogynists. I was standing up for the underdog, it's my good Samaritan nature.<BR/><BR/>Besides my niece was a lovely ado and is a lovely young lady and gets on with my sons like a house on fire.richard of orleanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08821981371460225723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-16685690256376174112007-03-06T17:45:00.000+01:002007-03-06T17:45:00.000+01:00Well I agree with Louise...I had boys and girls - ...Well I agree with Louise...I had boys and girls - and heavens there is no comparison. However much you love them, cuddle them, make life super and show how much they are cared for and wanted.....they just spit in your eye, loathe you, make a terrible mess of everybody else's family life....boys are different. Trouble, yes as ados, but good clean forthright boyish trouble!<BR/><BR/>I am sure you don't wish to be unkind Richard, for you are in Sologne.....but if you just have boys, don't even try to understand a female ado! It's impossible unless you have gone thru it. Nightmare. And as Louise says so many buckets of tears you could fill a swimming pool!<BR/><BR/>I sometimes wonder if you don't comment just to be hurtful, but I can't bring myself to believe that of someone who writes elsewhere with such poetic and sensibility about other sujects. And you appreciate St. Nicolas.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-67347606042658495402007-03-06T17:18:00.000+01:002007-03-06T17:18:00.000+01:00Richard - do you have girls? I think not - I seem...Richard - do you have girls? I think not - I seem to remember you have boys...<BR/><BR/>Believe me, ado boys are a treat compared to ado girls.<BR/><BR/>You can fall over backwards for them and they just spit in your eye.<BR/><BR/>There is only one comfort - they do eventually grow out of it, but in the meantime it is a lot of blood, sweat and tears and tears and tears.Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277397635514758674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-56544350586827878312007-03-06T16:59:00.000+01:002007-03-06T16:59:00.000+01:00Perfect post from Orleans.Perfect post from Orleans.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-84557124060316856112007-03-06T16:56:00.000+01:002007-03-06T16:56:00.000+01:00Richard, believe me, she is welcome, and we have g...Richard, believe me, she is welcome, and we have gone to more trouble than you'd believe to make her so, turning lives and houses upsidedown to cope with her arrival. She is number one in her father's heart and is treated as a big sister by the boys. She has it all, even a 'nutty granny' falling over themselves to make her feel welcome.<BR/>But we can't live her life for her. She is responsible for her own happiness. She has the opportunity to be contented, it's up to her to take it.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-55443575690487416752007-03-06T16:49:00.000+01:002007-03-06T16:49:00.000+01:00Well if she is at least partially French you have ...Well if she is at least partially French you have some constructive material to work on.<BR/><BR/>I would say that the number one problem is that she is number 6 in the household: SH 1, boys 2 equal, partner (or live in lover as we used to call it) 2 also, cats and dogs 5, ado 6. So until you fix that problem and make her feel as if she is actually wanted you will get nowhere. <BR/><BR/>Remember égalité and fraternité have the same weight as liberté.richard of orleanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08821981371460225723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-23601935133919116662007-03-06T16:32:00.000+01:002007-03-06T16:32:00.000+01:00As I said, you can't force them. They need to be i...As I said, you can't force them. They need to be in a group which does things like that. The boyfriend is an excuse not to go out and do things at the weekend (no after school visits).Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-13388400882888165622007-03-06T16:26:00.000+01:002007-03-06T16:26:00.000+01:00Having a list of clubs/charities is only a piece o...Having a list of clubs/charities is only a piece of paper.<BR/>It needs life brought to it, such as a person providing an introduction.<BR/>Having a boyfriend take up after school time sounds like a palm off.<BR/>He sounds at loose ends as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-22435816248799826692007-03-06T16:15:00.000+01:002007-03-06T16:15:00.000+01:00She's neither specifically one nor the other, Rich...She's neither specifically one nor the other, Richard.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-86097834580676278572007-03-06T15:47:00.000+01:002007-03-06T15:47:00.000+01:00Sarah1)Either the ado is English. No hope in that ...Sarah<BR/><BR/>1)Either the ado is English. No hope in that case.<BR/><BR/>2)Or she's French. In which case you're going about things the wrong way.richard of orleanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08821981371460225723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-17960129988913706292007-03-06T14:51:00.000+01:002007-03-06T14:51:00.000+01:00She's told us she's not interested in charity work...She's told us she's not interested in charity work; not with us or anyone else. She just wants to see her boyfriend and go shopping. We've suggested she do other things, given lots of ideas, tried to interest her in the local sports clubs, you know the sort of thing. She has the list of local associations including charities. You can't make them do anything though, can you? It has to come from them. Maybe one day...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-43498067189042979972007-03-06T14:44:00.000+01:002007-03-06T14:44:00.000+01:00Maybe she doesn't want to do charity work with you...Maybe she doesn't want to do charity work with you, if you know what I mean! I find that most children nowdays are far more aware of the suffering in the world than we were - or I was at least, and normally are more than willing to help out. <BR/><BR/>If she likes animals, perhaps she might help out at the local SPA, or schools often run an 'aide aux devoirs' for younger children, where they have help from those who are in the lycée, or the Restos du Coeur...<BR/><BR/>My favourite daughter was awful at home, but with others she was brilliant, and I had nothing but compliments! I sometimes wondered if we were talking about the same person!Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277397635514758674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-41647478741461810172007-03-06T14:19:00.000+01:002007-03-06T14:19:00.000+01:00I meant 'an' Easter bonnet, of course.I agree with...I meant 'an' Easter bonnet, of course.<BR/><BR/>I agree with NG in that the RA is not a charitable girl in the slightest.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-87631779828359026322007-03-06T14:07:00.000+01:002007-03-06T14:07:00.000+01:00I was a Brownie when young and we did all sorts of...I was a Brownie when young and we did all sorts of charity work, the most memorable being the Easter bonnet visit to the old people's hospital when we had to make and Easter bonnet each and wrap up a simple little present for one of the patients.<BR/><BR/>They loved it and were always so touched by our childish efforts.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-24572741206772551772007-03-06T13:08:00.000+01:002007-03-06T13:08:00.000+01:00I'm afraid our RA in question will not be drawn to...I'm afraid our RA in question will not be drawn to good doing of any sort. She actually has at home and nearby every ocassion to help out with our charity work, and will not, and heaven knows we spend hours and hours everyday getting it going, and all helping had could be so useful!<BR/><BR/>When I was a child we all did "things to help", it was part of our lives. I chose visiting elderly without families, but there was a very wide range of possibilities, and absolutely all of my family and friends did something. Another era? Another form of approach?<BR/><BR/>RA could have done tons to help already and never even asked to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-4612298719602504572007-03-06T09:32:00.000+01:002007-03-06T09:32:00.000+01:00I'm not sure you can say that having a boyfriend a...I'm not sure you can say that having a boyfriend at 16 robs a child of his/her childhood. It's over by then anyway. They are into young adulthood at that age with raging hormones and desires to break loose the shackles of parents who are out to ruin their lives (sic).<BR/><BR/>We've all been there to some extent, some more unpleasantly than others. I got up to some hairy stuff, but I hardly ever imposed on my parents, from what I can remember, anyway.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-49389237306073717512007-03-06T06:33:00.000+01:002007-03-06T06:33:00.000+01:00Spoken like a true Alabaman, Anonymous 3. Are you ...Spoken like a true Alabaman, Anonymous 3. Are you a friend of Anonymous 1 ? Where's he/she tonight ? Still reading the Ottawan newspapers ?<BR/><BR/>Hope you enjoyed your read of Roads of Stone.<BR/><BR/>What is it they say: just because you're paranoid doesn't mean to say they're not out to get you.<BR/><BR/>All those who lurk behind "anonymous" as a means of making spiteful remarks at others expense should realise that their devious abuse of other people's blogs is now over - they can be tracked and exposed.<BR/><BR/>Colin Berry (Dreams and Daemons)sciencebodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051016731274875332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-85711439983850467732007-03-06T01:49:00.000+01:002007-03-06T01:49:00.000+01:00There seems no point in continuing to blog.Someone...There seems no point in continuing to blog.<BR/>Someone with an obsession is panting at the back of my neck.<BR/><BR/>Keep up your blog, good wishes to all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-24672411812493972252007-03-06T00:34:00.000+01:002007-03-06T00:34:00.000+01:00Don't be so prudish. Children can start to date wi...Don't be so prudish. Children can start to date with the opposite sex at 16 without necessarily jumping straight into bed. It's all part of growing up you know, the kissin' and the cuddlin' ......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-31804767493264670942007-03-06T00:15:00.000+01:002007-03-06T00:15:00.000+01:00The last of the big advisors here.Maybe a weekend ...The last of the big advisors here.<BR/><BR/>Maybe a weekend job, or after school would open her world for her.<BR/>Something to look forward to, in the summer.<BR/>Volunteering to help an elderly person, or visit the local animal shelter.<BR/>Boyfriends at 16, rob children of their childhood , worse than being a mall walker at 60.<BR/>If she has no known medical issues, then offer her the thought of finding someone to help in this world.<BR/>Makes her feel a little needed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-4497386631586986282007-03-05T21:02:00.000+01:002007-03-05T21:02:00.000+01:00Thank you for your words of wisdom, Richard...Thank you for your words of wisdom, Richard...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-31759828038767442612007-03-05T18:52:00.000+01:002007-03-05T18:52:00.000+01:00Sarah Maybe you shouldn't have picked up that sdf ...Sarah<BR/><BR/> Maybe you shouldn't have picked up that sdf in the first place.richard of orleanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08821981371460225723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-64030782047967738222007-03-05T14:07:00.000+01:002007-03-05T14:07:00.000+01:00Thanks, Louise!We have been doing a lot of what yo...Thanks, Louise!<BR/><BR/>We have been doing a lot of what you are suggesting - school, sitting down talking to her etc. She begged to come back to France when her mother left to go to the Antilles so she is theoretically where she wants to be.<BR/><BR/>However, there is a lot of family baggage that she and her father need to sort out together.<BR/><BR/>I think a lot of it is pure dyed in the wool ado behaviour. She wants to be independent, doesn't want to be involved in family life - the usual stuff. It's the undercurrents that are toxic, and you're right, I am number one in my house and the boys are number two.<BR/><BR/>I will not have them badly influenced by a tasmanian devil who will wreak havoc for a couple of years and then waft off to her own life leaving us to cope with the mess! Grrr.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18862674.post-8214854882947818192007-03-05T13:36:00.000+01:002007-03-05T13:36:00.000+01:00Sorry - just a PS to my waffling. Gardening is th...Sorry - just a PS to my waffling. Gardening is the most therapheutic thing in the world, so get digging and planting!Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277397635514758674noreply@blogger.com